- Many of Our Fears Are Irrational
Sure, some of our worst nightmares stem from survival instincts and things that are actually dangerous. For example, I am absolutely disgusted by big, hairy spiders with their beady eyes that look like they want to eat you! It is reasonable to be scared of the spiders who could potentially kill me, although it also takes every ounce of courage I can muster up to kill some spiders that are of absolutely no threat to me. That’s irrational.
One day I was at an exotic pet expo and they had a tarantula there. Growing up I couldn’t even look at tarantulas because they made me want to puke. Seriously. But, my uncle had passed away not long before and I was going through a phase where I wanted to face my fears. So I decided I was going to hold this thing.
I will tell you, I almost backed out and my heart was beating so fast I thought it was going to explode. Then the guy put this tarantula in my hands and I seriously didn’t even feel it! I was in awe. I thought it would tickle or be prickly, but it was walking all over my hand and I could not feel a thing. I was almost actually upset when he took it away!
The thing is, our minds conjure up the worst possible thing that could happen, and the anticipation of facing our fear is a million times worse than actually doing it. The lack of knowledge we have is also our enemy. I learned that tarantulas give multiple warning signs before they will ever attack. They don’t want to attack because it takes two weeks for them to restore their venom after they have bit someone.
Am I best friends with spiders now? Hell no! I still make someone else kill those bigger ones if I can, but I also know that I can do it. Every time I get scared when I come across a spider I remind myself of that tarantula.
TAKE ACTION: Write out your top 5 fears and reasons why they are irrational.
2. Some of my Biggest Fears End up Being Activities I Most Enjoy
For one of our high school gym trips we went zip lining. I am a fairly adventurous person, but I was extremely nervous. I watched some classmates zip line upside down and thought to myself, “There is no way you will EVER get me to do that”.
When it was finally my turn I gave myself a little pep talk and took a run at it. As I was soaring across the trees I found myself laughing and having a great time! It didn’t feel near as fast or scary once I was in the air.
A couple years later I convinced my mom and sister to go zip lining with me at Cypress Hills in Saskatchewan. It was a six course zip line where you had to climb rope ladders, and trees with staples sticking out for footing. And what do you know, by the last course I was one of those people zip lining upside down! The thing I said I would NEVER do.
There have been so many activities I was scared shitless to do, but they have become some of my all-time favourites.
Always give something a chance before you decide whether you enjoy it or not. You don’t know until you try.
TAKE ACTION: Make a list of activities you would like to do, but fear holds you back. Commit to trying 1 activity a week.
3. Fear Lowers Your Energy and Frequency
Many of us know how important it is to be grateful and keep our frequency high. When you are negative your vibrational energy is low and the universe reflects that. This is why when you’re having a bad day things seem to keep going wrong, and when you’re in a positive mood everything seems to fall into place.
Fear holds us in a negative state and therefore also keeps our frequency at a lower state. If you want to create abundance in your life you have to raise your frequency to that equivalent of abundance.
“Being in gratitude for the not-yet manifested informs The Universe that you know that what you desire already exists, and puts you at the right frequency to receive it.”You are a Badass; How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life – Jen Sincero
TAKE ACTION: Commit to 15 days of writing out 5 things/people in your life that you are truly grateful for when you first wake up in the morning.
4. Fear Prevents Self Growth
In order to grow we need to be willing to step out of our comfort zone. I cannot describe how critical this is! If you want to see a change in your life you have to be willing to change. This means putting in both physical and mental effort.
It is by no means easy when you’re starting to make these adjustments, but there is this lovely little thing called momentum that makes it so much easier once you get started. If you make the same positive, productive decisions consistently, you will notice a huge positive impact.
TAKE ACTION: An amazing book that I highly recommend for changing your life and your finances is The Compound Effect; Jumpstart your income, your life, your success by Darren Hardy
5. Fear Keeps You From Your Full Potential
I have a very important question for you. If there was nothing to stop you; if money wasn’t an issue, if you absolutely could not fail, what dream would you pursue?
What is it that you so badly wish you had the guts to do? Fear is often what holds us back from accomplishing those dreams. Are you going to fail at it? Yes. You are also going to learn from it and be better next time. I can almost guarantee you that none of those successful business owners, athletes, etc. that you look up to got it right the first time. The difference is that they didn’t let that stop them.
You CAN go after your dreams. You CAN be successful. You ARE worth it.
One of our biggest fears is that others are going to judge us if we fail. I’ll let you in on a little secret: other people don’t care about you. You are stopping yourself from accomplishing great things because your brain conjured up how others are going to react. People will celebrate your success, people will understand that you aren’t going to get everything right. People are going to be happy for you when you reach those goals.
Another little secret: the haters aren’t actually hating on you, they’re hating on themselves. They are simply jealous that you are moving forward while their fear is keeping them stuck.
The people who truly care about you will celebrate the shit out of you. They will be a support team. They want to see you succeed.
So get out of your head, take care of your mind and body, fuel your motivation, and go make that dream come true!
TAKE ACTION: List 3 dreams you would like to accomplish by the end of this year (you can start small). Next, list the reasons you haven’t pursued them yet. Then figure out ways you can overcome those obstacles. Lastly, pick the most significant or most reasonable dream and go after it. Important: push through when it gets hard. You never know how close you are to success.
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I believe you have what it takes to succeed. You just need to dig deep and find it.